darshu--as a mother of two sons i thank u for ur comments on my elder ---its the upbringing u see !!!!!!!
BUT register my protest in defence of the younger.

as kalu rightly asked where were u when the party was going on at home. actually i was ordered to keep away and i was allowed in only after a phone call. i walked in to find them all decently in line like in a identification parade. the site of those hunks at 15 years almost made me quiver in my bare feet.